When Vivienne was a newborn, I like so many other new moms, I was given many pieces of conflicting advise by well meaning nurses in the hospital when it came to breastfeeding. One nurse told me to let her nurse (at two days old) 30 minutes on each side. I was in so much pain at the end of the day I was ready then & there to switch to bottles. Then Vivienne's pediatrician (a man in his 80's to the best of my knowledge) came in & gave her a pacifier. He told me, sometimes, babies just want to suck. It is comforting for them. It can be you (the mom) their thumb, or a pacifier. I chose the pacifier.
There have been over a hundred times I have questioned that decision. My kids are all VERY attached to their "binkis" and even know the difference between each one, have color preferences & only like the "baby" ones.
|Coco showing off her green binki, the preferred color for now.|
I have been thinking of ways to get rid of them, short of just throwing them in the trash & saying no more. I don't want to deal with the fall out from that. I like to limit the use to when we are not in public. They also can't talk with them in their mouths.
I decided to try & get Vivienne out of the habit of using a binki & looked into creative ways that have worked for other moms. I found one I thought was cute, and decided to give it a try. Basically, explain to the kid you are giving their binki to a new baby so the new baby can have one. Good friends of ours are expecting & we were going to a family baby shower so I thought this would be a prefect opportunity to give it a try.
Vivienne was very excited about the idea of giving her binkis to the new baby. She explained how she was going to wrap them & put a note on the gift. This morning it was the BIG DAY. She gathered up about 5 binkis, some she must have had stashed away. She put them in a bag & wrote a long note to the baby.
THEN, she explained to me that on the way home we needed to buy some new binkis since that baby would have all of her old ones. I think that means, the experiment failed ... or is it just I didn't follow through? Wasn't the point of this that there are a limited number of binkis to go around?
Forget it, I said to myself. Honestly, I really don't care. One day she won't want it. I think I'll just wait until then.
Thoughts? What did you do? Is it a big deal? Am I ruining her for life?